5 Human Diseases and How to Deal With Them
March 16, 2011 Leave a comment
“When I hear somebody sigh, ‘Life’s hard’ I am always tempted to ask, ‘Compared to what?’ ” by Sydney Harris (an influenced journalist from the United States)
When we were small, we might not realize that we grew bigger and stronger. Try to take a look at a child who is learning how to walk. That child never gives up and keeps on trying. If that child fails, he/she will learn again. The same thing happens when that child learns to ride a bicycle. Falling and pain is that child’s menu every day until he finally can balance himself.
However, as time moves on; environmental influence, inputs, talks and stories from the closest people, plenty of information have made our courage seemed to fade. Fear emerges all the time, the courage to overcome challenge is reduced, and nerve lessens, even becomes fear to make innovations. When we were children, we grew “wild” with all the ideas in our head to reach whatever it is that we wanted.
So, where did all the courage we used to have? At least there are five things – yes, only five things – that can ‘kill’ us slowly if we do not overcome it soon. First, the loss of courage; second, troubles emerge; third, changes; fourth, fear; and fifth, failures. How do we deal with “5 human illness” will affect someone’s success. John C. Maxwell says, “Never let your attitude backs you down!”
Liven Up the Spirit in You
According to Maxwell, there are two types of people when dealing with challenges in life: splatter and bouncer. Splatter is a kind of a rain fall. Therefore when it falls.. While the bouncer bounces like a ball. When they fall, they bounce back to the top; trying to find a way to be on top again. This kind of attitude is the one needed by true winners.
So how can we overcome our despair that weakens our spirit? Maxwell suggests these few things:
• Try to find a better point of view of the things that we are going through.
• Find someone who can encourage us. Don’t hang around with people who will burden our mind.
Another thing to do to encourage our self is by “talking” to our self. Dr Lloyd Jones wrote in his book “Spiritual Depression: Its Cause and Cure”, “Do you realize that unhappiness is influenced by you ‘listening’ to yourself instead of ‘talking’ to yourself?” What Dr Jones meant is that we tend to listen to complaints from ourselves, but we do not try to ‘talk’ to find the solutions. Therefore, change your habit soon by choosing meaningful words that will encourage you once more.
Malcolm Forbes once said, “If you have a job that does not have any problems, then you are not actually working.” This quote is a perfect analogy to describe that everyone always experiences problems. However, each person has their own ability to overcome problems.
So how can we overcome existing problems so we can be a successful individual?
• Consider your problem as an opportunity. Norman Vincent Peale said, “Thinking positive is how you think about a problem. Enthusiasm is how you feel about a problem. And the combination of both is how you solve a problem.” Therefore try to find another point of view about a problem so we can get a positive lesson for our life.
• Acknowledge the problem. Because according to Fred Smith, founder of FedEX, problem is something that we can solve. If that problem has no solution, then it means that it is a life fact that cannot be changed.
Dealing with Changes
A wise idiom said that there aren’t any constant thing is this world, except for changes. Therefore, changes are something that cannot be avoided. So we are expected to adapt. John C. Maxwell made a statement about CHANGE:
C (Challenge) > it is not easy, but that is where opportunities lie
H (Humor) > face it with laughter. Because laughter brings happiness
A (Adjustment) > to follow the changes, we should be a flexible person
N (Newness) > there is always something new towards changes. And “newness” surely has some “refreshing” values
G (Growth) > growth happens because of changes. Therefore, be grateful for the changes that happen to us
E (Evaluation) > changes make us realize that we need to evaluate
Fear often appears as a result of our own thoughts. A research conducted by University of Michigan stated that 60% of our fear are not reasonable, so it only appears because we ‘fear’ it without never coming true; 20% of our fear comes from our past experiences that is out of our control; 10% of our fear is something that we should not be worried about; and only 4-5% of our fear that comes true.
Based on that fact, we can conclude that fear comes from our own thoughts. Therefore, when we fear something, we have to face it. One of the advices given by a legendary boxing trainer Cus D’Amato was, “A hero and a loser face the same fear. However, a winner turns fear into something that encourages him.”
“Be Grateful” for Failures
In fact, failures appear as a “soul mate” to success. Through failures, we can achieve success. There is no absolute success without failures. Through failures we can get much knowledge. So we should be grateful when we fail, because failures bring us closer to success.
Colin Powell, former US politician, said, “There are no secret for success, there are only preparation, hard work, and learn from failures.” So why should we be afraid of failing?”